Ingram, who stood by Filner’s side throughout his campaign, wrote an email to a large group of people stating she had broken off their engagement. She confirmed the breakup to NBC 7 in an email.
The 48-year-old also stated she will no longer work on her efforts on behalf of San Diego’s homeless population.
“I have struggled with this decision as I really wanted to see the community projects we had initiated with such enthusiasm come to fruition,” she wrote. “I am extremely disappointed and heartbroken, both for what Team First Lady could have accomplished, and for me, personally; however, this is the only action I can take given the devolvement of our personal relationship.”
Ingram and Filner were 22 years apart, and had been together for more than three years. The couple was planning for an October wedding.
Before living in San Diego, Ingram worked in Los Angeles as a disability analyst for the Social Security Administration. She said she met Filner when her office was working on a disability policy and Filner was “the only congressman who actually cared.”
Ingram continued her work for them at the local office once Filner was elected mayor and she moved to San Diego full time. Filner said shortly after he was elected that Ingram would not receive a salary from the city.
“My heart is in San Diego now,” she said in her December Politically Speaking interview.
Ingram wished Filner the best in her letter, and said she hopes the volunteers that worked with her will continue their work throughout San Diego.