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Gardner Refuses to See Amber's Mom

She has a list of 20 questions for her daughter's killer



    Gardner Refuses to See Amber's Mom
    North County Times

    Carrie McGonigle, the mother of murdered teenager Amber Dubois, was turned away from a visit with her daughter's killer, John Gardner.

    Gardner, 31, pleaded guilty to killing Dubois and Poway teenager Chelsea King and had said he would talk to his victim's parents if they wanted more information.

    "I'm calling him out on what he said, so let's see if he does it," McGonigle said.

    She called deputies on Monday, to try and get a visit, but there weren't any times available.  She called back on Tuesday several times until she said deputies went up to Gardner's cell to ask him if he'll meet with her.

    "He wanted me to speak to his attorneys and he was asking deputies 'Should I or shouldn't I?' and the deputy said you just need to say yes or no, 'Do you want to meet? Yes or no? I can't give you advice,'"McGonigle said.

    Gardner's attorneys told McGonigle that she couldn't meet with their client until after his sentencing on May 14.

    McGonigle said Gardner eventually declined.  But she's hoping he will say yes before the sentencing when she and other family members will give their victim impact speeches.

    "I've waited 15 months for answers and I want them before sentencing because it completely changes what I'm going to say at the hearing," McGonigle said."I don't want to have to hold back on my statement because of being afraid of him saying 'You know what? I'm never going to give this family the answers that they want.'"

    McGonigle has a list of 20 questions for Gardner.  The number one question is "Why Amber?" She says the rest of the questions are private.